We can talk about agile strategy all we want but “Doing over Planning”is a more than sufficient summary for anybody who wants to get started.
https://www.madebymany.com/stories/a-manifesto-for-agile-strategy-oxymoron-or-innovation
We can talk about agile strategy all we want but “Doing over Planning”is a more than sufficient summary for anybody who wants to get started.
https://www.madebymany.com/stories/a-manifesto-for-agile-strategy-oxymoron-or-innovation
An incisive profile on the life of an Instagram influencer.
https://www.thecut.com/2019/09/who-would-tavi-gevinson-be-without-instagram.html
As good a confession as could have been written on the Medialab by danah boyd.
https://onezero.medium.com/facing-the-great-reckoning-head-on-8fe434e10630
The necessity of physical fitness to create peak mental performance has been a well-known fact in esports. Useful to see the documented effects of pushing yourself cognitively within the chess world.
The 1984 World Chess Championship was called off after five months and 48 games because defending champion Anatoly Karpov had lost 22 pounds. “He looked like death,” grandmaster and commentator Maurice Ashley recalls.
Good on people to opt-out of imposed citizenship and engage on their own piece of statecraft.
I’ll trust Artefact Cards when they say they have something that’s better than the Sharpie.
I found this excellent summary of John Boyd’s concepts as they relate to agile.
I’ve always been a product-minded software engineer as is described here (just curious about everything).
I agree that product thinking is a focusing and bridging quality that makes a crucial difference in a team.
https://blog.pragmaticengineer.com/the-product-minded-engineer/
All online metrics are a fraud.
A couple of years ago, I remember seeing at IST airport advertisements for connecting flights to Erbil (أربيل‎). The city seems to have continued growing and by now developed a vibrant nightlife.
My colleague Jiro Minier is featured in the Dahrendorf Foresight Project on European Security with a scenario that is both dystopian and scarily prescient. I read it as a call for more European collaboration and investment.
As your perspective of the world increases not only is the pain it inflicts on you less but also its meaning. Understanding the world requires you to take a certain distance from it. Things that are too small to see with the naked eye, such as molecules and atoms, we magnify. Things that are too large, such as cloud formations, river deltas, constellations, we reduce. At length we bring it within the scope of our senses and we stabilize it with fixer. When it has been fixed we call it knowledge. Throughout our childhood and teenage years, we strive to attain the correct distance to objects and phenomena. We read, we learn, we experience, we make adjustments. Then one day we reach the point where all the necessary distances have been set, all the necessary systems have been put in place. That is when time begins to pick up speed. It no longer meets any obstacles, everything is set, time races through our lives, the days pass by in a flash and before we know what is happening we are forty, fifty, sixty . . .
I do not want anyone to get close to me, I do not want anyone to see me, and this is the way things have developed: no one gets close and no one sees me.
They even squeeze out the most recent past: ask me what I did three days ago and I can’t remember.
Here I have to find other goals and come to terms with them. The art of living is what I am talking about.
I have always had a great need for solitude. I require huge swathes of loneliness and when I do not have it, which has been the case for the last five years, my frustration can sometimes become almost panicked, or aggressive.
When Vanja was around eight months old she began to have violent outbursts, like fits at times, and for a while it was impossible to reach her, she just screamed and screamed. All we could do was hold her until it had subsided. It is not easy to say what caused it, but it often occurred when she had had a great many impressions to absorb, such as when we had driven to her grandmother’s in the country outside Stockholm, when she had spent too much time with other children, or we had been in town all day. Then, inconsolable and completely beside herself, she could scream at the top of her voice. Sensitivity and strength of will are not a simple combination.
Perhaps even, at certain moments, joy. And isn’t that enough? Isn’t it enough? Yes, if joy had been the goal it would have been enough. But joy is not my goal, never has been, what good is joy to me? The family is not my goal either. If it had been, and I could have devoted all my energy to it, we would have had a fantastic time, of that I am sure.
I know I can change all this, I know we too can become that kind of family, but then I would have to want it and in which case life would have to revolve around nothing else. And that is not what I want. I do everything I have to do for the family; that is my duty. The only thing I have learned from life is to endure it, never to question it, and to burn up the longing generated by this in writing.
That does not mean I do not love them, because I do, with all my heart, it simply means that the meaning they produce is not sufficient to fulfill a whole life.
She had a liberating, gentle smile that I admired and found endlessly appealing, both because it did not embrace me or others like me, it belonged to the very essence of her being, to which only she herself and her friends had recourse, and also because her top lip was slightly twisted.
We were utterly hopeless, completely out of our depth, there was not a snowball’s chance in hell of anything coming of this, we wouldn’t even be good enough to perform at a school party, but although this was the reality we never experienced it as such. On the contrary, this was what gave our lives meaning.
But my pleasure was partly due to my father always perking up for such events. He became more friendly towards me, took me into his confidence, so to speak, and regarded me as someone to be considered, but this was not the most important thing, for this friendliness he showed to his son was merely one aspect of a greater magnanimity that infused him on such occasions: he became charming, witty, knowledgeable, and entertaining, which in a way justified the fact that I had such mixed emotions about him and was so preoccupied with them.
I was not exactly invulnerable, my weaknesses were there for all to see and exploit, and the fact that they didn’t, because they didn’t have enough insight to be able to see them, was surely not my problem.
They had been drinking before I arrived, and although he was kindness itself, it was threatening nonetheless; not directly, of course, because, sitting there, I didn’t fear him, but indirectly because I could no longer read him. It was as if all the knowledge I had acquired about him through my childhood, and which enabled me to prepare for any eventuality, was, in one fell swoop, invalid. So what was valid?
I could remember all the places I had been, all the rooms I had been in. Just not what happened there.
You know too little and it doesn’t exist. You know too much and it doesn’t exist. Writing is drawing the essence of what we know out of the shadows. That is what writing is about. Not what happens there, not what actions are played out there, but the there itself.
What I ought to do was affirm what existed, affirm the state of things as they are, in other words, revel in the world outside instead of searching for a way out, for in that way I would undoubtedly have a better life, but I couldn’t do it, I couldn’t, something had congealed inside me, a conviction was rooted inside me, and although it was essentialist, that is, outmoded and, furthermore, romantic, I could not get past it, for the simple reason that it had not only been thought but also experienced, in these sudden states of clearsightedness that everyone must know, where for a few seconds you catch sight of another world from the one you were in only a moment earlier, where the world seems to step forward and show itself for a brief glimpse before reverting and leaving everything as before . . .
The box of Kleenex was a sign that here weeping and death had undergone inflation.
The zone that had come into existence when we first left the undertaker’s, and that seemed to make everything around me dead, or meaningless, had grown in size and strength.
We laughed, Tonje ran inside for her camera, and when she came out she put one arm around me and took a photo with the other hand outstretched. We were two children.
The fact that he could be more malicious to me than anyone else changed nothing, it was part and parcel of it, and in the context we lived, the hatred I felt for him was no more than a brook is to an ocean, a lamp to the night.
The sole difference, which is the difference between a child’s reality and an adult’s, was that they were no longer laden with meaning.
I didn’t care anymore anyway. But there had been days when I had cared, days when I had been on the outside and had suffered. Now I was only on the outside.
My father was an idiot, I wanted nothing to do with him, and it cost me nothing to keep well away from him. It wasn’t a question of keeping away from something, it was a question of the something not existing; nothing about him touched me.
“Sometimes when he walks, I swear I can hear it, the depression. It’s a liquid sound. I can hear the cortisol sloshing around in his veins. I can hear the adrenaline drip-drip-dripping down the twisted cord of his spine.”
I’m afraid this piece has disappeared behind the Medium paywall, but The Weather by Aubrey Hirsch is one of the rare things I have ever read about post-partum depression in men and it is written like a punch in the gut.
Piketty is back with a new book but his policy proposals are already there and should be implemented immediately and in full. The only reason we will have to fight for them to pass is because our governments do not work for the people.
It is true that Goodreads is a deeply broken website but right now it is the only place that we have that has a critical mass of readers on it.
https://onezero.medium.com/almost-everything-about-goodreads-is-broken-662e424244d5
Not surprising that those things at the MIT Media Lab that looked too good to be true, were in fact fake.
https://gizmodo.com/mit-built-a-theranos-for-plants-1837968240
The men issue of Contrapoints is mostly correct as always.
I had kinda forgotten about Soigneur, but then I ran into this amazing set of photos of racing bikes in the city. That new race bike seems to be getting closer and closer.
I don’t really know why we have this debate, but the following is a thorough and definitive argument against technocracy by Glen Weyl: “Technocracy divorced from the need for public communication and accountability is thus a dangerous ideology that distracts technical experts from the valuable role they can play by tempting them to assume undue, independent power and influence.”
I’m finding that I really enjoy the role of management for the reasons listed in this piece below and some more even.
https://www.davidbrunelle.com/2019-09-12-reasons-to-try-management/
This piece by Arthur C. Brooks about professional decline, touching on Hinduism, Buddhism and many many more things is quite something.
https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2019/07/work-peak-professional-decline/590650/
Slack says that letting people do a code review as a take-home gives a similar or maybe even better signal when hiring.
“[…] we also wanted to know that these folks were good teammates — that they were concerned with maintainability and documentation, and that they could express themselves with empathy and a mindset towards collective learning.”
https://slack.engineering/refactoring-backend-engineering-hiring-at-slack-b53b1e0e7a3c
An interesting reversal here where I once said that any application could be delivered through the chat medium, now Kevin Kwok signals a tendency for one chat platform to permeate all applications.
An amazing and inspiring play-by-play of how Clio doubled their representation of women by improving their hiring game and setting a quota.
https://labs.clio.com/how-we-doubled-the-representation-of-women-in-engineering-at-clio-2d9a4a1a0282
I think everybody (myself included) can and should get better at managing up. This guide by Claire Lew has some helpful tips that mostly boil down to: “context”.
Teams just like so many Microsoft products is so bad that people have to be forced to use it.
https://medium.com/@joshuamkite/the-horror-of-microsoft-teams-c18360712361
An interesting bit of news did the rounds last week but I’ve personally heard of multiple cases where people leaving online reviews have been faced with legal action.
Germany has a lot of lawyers and judges and the system finds work for them.
As an occasional listener to the various Asymco podcasts and somebody very much interested in new forms of mobility, I was taken more than a bit aback by this.
Dediu revealed himself as a founder in Bond which is the same company as Smide. I remembered him having somebody from Smide on in one of the first episodes of the Micromobility podcast but there was never any disclosure then or after about Dediu’s connections there.
A lapse in disclosure and some backroom action is not a big deal and nothing much seems to have come from this, but it is a good reminder that everything you see online (not just the posts on Instagram) is fake.
I love TikTok but it is a very large application with very little checks.
https://www.wired.co.uk/article/tiktok-india-hate-speech-caste
Twenty-four survival tips for women by Patricia Aas that I wholeheartedly support but wish were not necessary.
https://patricia.no/2018/09/06/survival_tips_for_women_in_tech.html
Working in organizations, it’s essential to be able to differentiate between things that are under your purview, and things that you should let fall on the floor. Camille Fournier writes a guide here about how to decide what to fix and how to fix that.
https://medium.com/@skamille/opp-other-peoples-problems-d7eb174724ee
De PvdA is om en wil weer een basisbeurs voor studenten. De partij maakt een draai van 180 graden en trekt de handen af van het leenstelsel, dat het zelf nota bene heeft ingevoerd.
Het is ongelofelijk hoe nutteloos de PvdA is en blijft.
Berlin is finally thinking of fixing its totally and utterly broken website. That’s good news but a shame that we have had to use this monstrosity for the past ten years.
Oatley is by far our favorite plant based milk and I’m glad to read that they are seeing explosive growth (also animal milk consumption in the Netherlands has already dropped 14%).
Maybe after this New Yorker exposé, Joi Ito will finally resign?
Full disclosure: Joi Ito once paid for my lunch in a café in Beirut when I was traveling there with some tech people.
My exposure to the inner machinations of Ito’s clique didn’t leave me too enthusiastic. It also became clear that underneath the glamorous surface there was very little of interest or value.
I’m glad the only thing he paid for me was a lunch otherwise I would also be rather embarrassed right now.
Update: He just did. But judging from comments by Negroponte, “Nicholas Negroponte, a founder of the lab, said he had told Mr. Ito to take the money and would do it again.”, there is more wrong with the institution than just the one person.
BMW thinks it’s a funny marketing gimmick to paint one of their worst cars in Vantablack. Dark coloured cars have been proven to be more likely to cause accidents. Black cars should be forbidden to participate in traffic, that should be what people are talking about here.
https://www.bmw.com/de/design/der-bmw-X6-in-vantablack.amp.html?__twitter_impression=true
Marty Cagan’s piece on product vs. feature teams yielded more than enough stuff to reflect on and discuss. I wouldn’t mind having a ‘true‘ product manager. Where do you get one of those?
Ten principles for how to grow as an engineer that are as true as the day they were written.
https://medium.com/@daniel.heller/ten-principles-for-growth-69015e08c35b
I’ve heard “if you’re so smart, then why aren’t you rich”more than a couple of times in my life. The answer it turns out is: unluckiness.
A thorough and humane treatment of alt-right memetic history and 8chan with its associated chans.
https://medium.com/@DaleBeran/why-does-8chan-exist-at-all-33a8942dbeb2
I’d say a lot of this criticism of React is fair but because all frameworks have jumped onto components, I don’t really see a realistic workable alternative either.
Design thinking is finally officially over, even Ideo admits it now.
https://www.fastcompany.com/90257718/ideo-breaks-its-silence-on-design-thinkings-critics
This lament on SF does not sound that far off from where Berlin is. The city is a lot bigger and less boring, but without measures, it could go the same way when it comes to property prices and hollowing out of public services.
https://www.theguardian.com/cities/2019/jul/01/san-francisco-big-tech-workers-industry
An excellent short piece by Emily Nakashima about the various ways that power bends reality. It is well worth keeping in mind even especially if you are the person who has power.
We were represented at PM Camp last week and here’s a blog post (in German) by Alicia, one of my team members about the way we work.
“The role of the middle-aged white man is to put out the rubbish and if he is the rubbish then he should put himself out.”
Berlin is instituting a rent cap which honestly is the only way the city will remain liveable for the majority of its inhabitants.
After this piece, I’m totally sold on the benefits of mentoring (and registered myself on Coding Coach). I would be open to mentor a couple of people on engineering/product management/leadership.
https://blog.pragmaticengineer.com/developers-mentoring-other-developers/
Fisher says there is brain evidence that when women are under stress (say, a new baby has colic), they are inclined to “tend and befriend”(become more empathetic and social), while men under stress are apt to withdraw.
A study of heterosexual couples led by Shiri Cohen, a couples therapist and psychology instructor at Harvard Medical School, revealed that women reported feeling much happier when their male partners understood that they were angry or upset. “This research bore out what I see every day with couples,”Cohen tells me. “When the man can register his wife’s negative feelings, and communicate that on some level, the wife feels better, because she knows that ‘Oh, he gets how I’m feeling.’”She points out that, conversely, men do not derive the same satisfaction in knowing that their wives are upset. “Research shows that men tend to retreat from what feels like conflict to them, because they tend to physiologically get much more negatively aroused,”she said, “so conflict feels way more intense for them.”
so women have better memory and social cognition skills, making them better equipped for multitasking and creating solutions that can work within a group.
Brené Brown calls this tendency to project a motive onto someone without actually knowing the facts “the story I’m making up.”
No surprise there—but the mind-boiling part is that men’s stress levels fell if they kicked back with some sort of leisure activity—but only if their wives kept busy doing household tasks at the same time
meanwhile, found that married couples’ wounds actually healed more slowly when they had hostile arguments compared with so-called low-hostile couples. The stress from a fallout, they discovered, drove up blood levels of hormones that interfere with the delivery of proteins called cytokines, which aid the immune system during injuries.
“Tom, what you’re not getting, and this is true for most men I see, is that it is in your interest to move beyond your knee-jerk selfishness and entitlement and to take good care of your wife, so she isn’t such a raving lunatic all the time.”
“But the idea that you can haul off and be abusive to your partner and somehow get a pass, that you can’t control it, or whatever you tell yourself to rationalize it, is nuts. Also, your whole ‘angry victim’ role is going to get worse. You are extremely comfortable with your self-righteous indignation.”
We construct a plan for his phone to issue a spate of reminders before all school pickups.
A week later, Tom’s crisis negotiation skills are required yet again. It is a school morning, and he is sleeping in after a late night of binge-watching a Swedish crime series. I am up at 6 a.m. with our daughter, making her breakfast and lunch, supervising her homework, ordering a replacement water bottle after she somehow lost hers at school, filling out a form for a class trip, and baking carrot muffins for Tom.
“Men often do best if they know exactly what to do.”Do not use moralistic or shaming language, he continues, which only brings on defensiveness.
Tell your spouse that changing his behavior will directly benefit him because you will be happier and more relaxed.
I’ve learned to be protective of my time, just as my husband is.
“Both boys and girls learn that mothers have needs, too, which is also very important if they have children of their own,”
Those drained respondents negotiated their responsibilities anew every day, starting from scratch—as Tom and I had been doing. This cracked system trapped the participants in an exhausting cycle of “requests and avoidance of these requests.”Conversely, spouses who knew exactly what to do around the house didn’t spend as much time negotiating responsibilities and didn’t tend to monitor and criticize each other. Not surprisingly, “their daily lives seemed to flow more smoothly.”
“So my question to you is, if he waits that long, what does it cost you, other than your obsessive need to not have it pile up? What’s it actually costing you?”
Please, snorts couples therapist Esther Perel. “One important intervention for my clients who are mothers that overmanage—who are overwrought not by difficult life circumstances but by the culture of perfection that has captured parenthood—is that I tell them to go away for the weekend,”she says. I admit to her that I am that over-managing mother. “Then go away alone, go with your friends, go away with someone you haven’t seen in ages!”she says.
The Gottmans categorize couples as masters and disasters. Masters look purposefully for things they can appreciate and respect about their partner; disasters monitor their mates for what they are doing wrong so they can criticize them. Intent on being a relationship master, I order a stack of their books.
This means voicing what the Gottmans call the “three As”: affection, appreciation, and admiration.
When Tom is reading the paper, for example, he occasionally comments, “Hmm, that’s interesting.”This is a “bid,”a sometimes-subtle appeal for attention. If I reply, “Oh, what are you reading?”this response is what Gottman calls “turning toward”my partner—I have given him the encouragement he’s seeking. If I ignore his bid, I am “turning away”from Tom.
My friend Jenny, mother of two, tells her husband that saying “thank you”is the ultimate cheap buy-in. “The average mom does a hell of a lot,”she says. “And unlike at work or school, at home, rarely is anyone saying, ‘Good job.’
Of course, I am still “household manager,”constantly reminding Tom to do fundamental things such as feed the kid breakfast—but he does it.
Sometimes he even says, “Need a hand?”
Oh, that must feel bad. I can see why you feel like that. What can I say or do right now to make you feel better? It’s calculated, but who cares?
One girl mentioned that every morning when she left for school, her father would say, “You go, tiger—you go get them.”
Father-initiated playdates are fairly rare, but they’re important, particularly for daughters.
Research shows that doing chores makes children thrive in countless ways, and is a proven predictor of success,
She found that having children take an active role in the household, starting at age three or four, directly influenced their ability to become well-adjusted young adults.
Those who began chores at three or four were more likely to have solid relationships with their families and friends, to be self-sufficient, and to achieve academic and early professional success.
three-quarters of the garages they studied were so crammed with junk, the homeowners couldn’t store cars
He laughs and says he understands. He explains that he isn’t suggesting that women should pump up the male ego—rather, that the need to feel appreciated is universal. Who among us does not love praise and kindness?
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When she was unhappy about making the lengthy commute to her daughter Jennifer’s preschool, her husband, then the chief executive of Microsoft, said he would drive Jennifer two days a week.
If a fight is brewing, start with “I”statements.
Say “Thank you,”and say it often.
All of those gestures—and I’m aware they were mostly gestures—took a total of a few hours, but she was thrilled, it deepened their relationship, and the goodwill he received from me lasted for weeks.
Especially, I would add here, if you can find a therapist who yells at your husband, “Stop with your entitled attitude, get off your ass, and help her out!”
The FBI’s methods of paraphrasing and emotion labeling are remarkably effective.
I can’t get enough of these literary exposés, this one about how Benjamin Moser treats female collaborators and appropriates their work.
I also love this proposed government based on sortition and ostracism. It seems like it could be a lot better than what we have right now.
https://www.metafilter.com/182510/Make-America-A-Democracy#7762457
Finally a proper English language profile of Turkish star rapper Ezhel.
https://www.ozy.com/rising-stars/can-turkeys-rebel-rapper-stay-out-of-prison/96150
Some of the Medialab faculty seem to be outraged because its current head Joi Ito took money from Jeffrey Epstein. Those that can are leaving. Power to them.
The outrage though seems to stem from a fundamental misunderstanding of what the Medialab is. Higher education institutions of that scale and stature in our current world do not exist without a vast pool of dark money behind it. Take any such institution’s investments, endowments and funding streams, dig a little and there’s no telling what you’ll turn up. Epstein money is particularly egregious but at this scale, there is no clean currency.
Ito’s role there is mostly to be a frontman and channel those money streams in a way that benefits the institution and himself while offering plausible deniability to those who work under him. By all accounts that seems exactly what he has been doing.
The man knows his job. It would be good if others did as well (some already do).
https://medium.com/@EthanZ/on-me-and-the-media-lab-715bfc707f6f